In this week's Reading, I have learned about the
early childhood development of a child, for example, something that surprised
me on page 143 and which I didn't know was that spanking effects a child's
cognitive ability badly because I got spanked as a child, so me learning that
surprised to me. The development of a child's motor skills always surprises me
because I had always thought we were born with the motor skills we have now. I
continue reading I realized that the emergence of motor skills evolves as from
year 2 to 6, humans develop many traits to help them overall in life, and we
aren't just born with a trait. Well-spoken from page 132 the humans have two
type of motor skills which are gross motor skills (the large muscles) and Fine
motor skills (the hands and finger, the small muscles) which to me is
fascinating because I thought motor skills were as one but rather it's two
motor skills in one.
On page 143 we also learn about the roles of having
siblings because older siblings are role models to the younger siblings and
help pave the road with the younger siblings as, the younger sibling watch and
learn with help create the bonds of sisterhood or brotherhood. One thing that
has caught my interest as a whole was page 144 speaks about siblings underworld
where the older siblings try to help the younger siblings understand the how
and why parents act a certain way as well as how to handle the situation. I
have three younger siblings and one older brother; I had learned how to work
many ways and how to deal with certain situations with my parents or how to
deal with bullies when I was younger. I have three younger siblings I try to
etch what was taught to me and help pave the road for my younger siblings so
they can understand why they shouldn't act a certain way. Also to go to me for
advice leading to girls and schoolwork and such so they can apply that
knowledge to the everyday life.
I noticed
this week’s blog centered greatly on bullying and how bullying can affect a
child negatively as well as bullying isn’t old fashioned bullying where the kid
got swirlies or made fun of in class I has evolved to technology. Kids becoming
bullied online to where it is now cyber bullying and students will get bullied online
and it will mentally affect the kid than anything. Bullying has become a much
worse form of old-fashioned bullying in my eyes although many Americans are
trying to make an impact on why bullying is bad and should be stopped before
bullying gets worse than what it is in this day of age. Concluding my blog post
everything the child do meaning input from the output it has an effect on the
child later in the future as the child environment affects the child, for
example, the parent’s type of punishment affects the child.
I see that you come from the "old school" form of discipline. As I look back on this I consider it somewhat of a flop. Spanking never really deterred me from doing anything I wanted to do and it was counter productive to my siblings. They received more "whoppings" than I did because of behavior and other mischievous deeds. They turned out actually worse so I do not believe necessarily that it is an effective form of discipline. I try to talk to my children and explain to them the consequences of behavior stressing the impact on every person in the family, not just the impact for themselves. I try to hit where it hurts with taking away things that are important to them such as phones, video games and t.v. It makes them think twice about their actions and I found this to be helpful to my wife and I. Also, my son I lean on harder because he is older and his sister emulate our sons behavior good and bad. This is important because the accepted behavior at home they display outside it in a much higher fashion. Simply stated, If you do this at home I know it is worse outside the house. I caution my children about their treatment of others because you never know a persons psyche and you may be the person that pushes them over the edge. The premise of the golden rule is prevalent even today and I challenge them always to be mindful of that.
ReplyDeleteI was also spanked as a child. It worked in my early years, at least as far back as I can remember, like around 5-10 years of age. But, the closer I got to puberty, I started "smelling myself", as the older generation would say. My mother was 17 when she had me, and although I don't totally agree with spanking, I know in her situation, it was all she knew, and it wasn't done in hate. I wish she told me more about what she experienced growing up, as I am easy to talk to and would have understood and did my best to do better. Unfortunately, talking wasn't the norm back then and harsh words and spankings were the only form of discipline known to use for unfavorable behavior. I feel I turned out ok, but I am most thankful that I was able to grasp the concept of my mother's situation in relationship to how she raised me to realize her true intentions. I was not spanked for unreasonable acts, or out of spite. She didn't call me names, and she showed me a lot of love. I also grew up in times when there was no social media, I had so much familial and community support, and these factors played major roles in shaping me as an adult; it taught me to be open to change, loving, and to help others that I encounters if I can.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, bullying is a very shameful act in this day and time. We all can see that this epidemic has not color or socio-economic ties, it's just that children and their parents are not being held accountable for their ignorant actions. All schools and parents should be proactive to prevent bullying, and laws should be harsh for those who are found guilty and shown to neglect their responsibility as a parent, child, and human being. With all the violence in the world today, it is despicable to witness children going through this, and it could be in most cases prevented right away. Great job on the post and bringing these enlightening topics to the forefront.
I agree with your assessment on the increase of bullying due to the technological advancements. Cyber bullying does have a huge impact on development. My fear is that we are going to have a society of children who have become socialized to see the normalcy in bullying. Cyber bullying has become so normalized that many children may believe that it is not even bullying. Providing those lessons to children about how to effectively and kindly communicate to each other has never been more important.
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